Nov 8 2012- Let the games begin

     This morning I woke up with a new mind set.  I remembered my old rules and remembered that love is a phycological game, and in order to win, you have to have to know how to control the situation.  Just like in most situations patience is key...Learning how to wait someone out can be the best and most effective weapon in you arsenal.  I used to be a master at the game of love, I could win 9 out of 10 times, but this morning proved that I am clearly very out of practice.  Since last night I have been very brief with Alex, I have decided that even though he is already mine, in order to keep him, I first need to make sure he doesn't get too comfortable.  No one should ever feel like they're your whole world, even if you really care about someone, make sure they know that you love them, but let them feel a little replaceable.  That way they don't think they can take advantage of you, because you'll never leave them.  I already made this mistake with Alex, and that is one of the many reasons he feels like he doesn't have to try.  I have the setting on my iphone that shows a person when I've read there message, I have this setting on purposefully, because I want Alex to know that I am reading his messages, and that I just don't feel like answering.  Since last night I have taken a step back, and am doing my own thing, and I was surprised to see how quickly he reacted.  Last night he actually remembered to send me a text saying goodnight, and this morning he texted me as soon as he woke up, but I took my time with the responses, and last night I didn't even respond.  But I took things too far, when doing this you are supposed to seem like you're busy and that you aren't really thinking about the other person, but I made the mistake of sending hurtful text messages.  That failed because all that did was make him angry, which wasn't what I was trying to do.  After I figured out, I would still be nice, I just would be the one to call him or try to make any plans with him, and I would reply to all his text messages, but I would open all of them so he knew I had read them.  Later I talked to Vienna and came up with a plan, I called Omar, this guy I'm trying to set her up with and made plans for him to surprise her at the mall tomorrow, even though she already knows, and she called Alex and made the same plan.  This way I am not the one asking Alex to hang out and she isn't the one asking Omar, but we both still get to see the guys we like without even seeming like that was something that crossed our mind.