Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Jan 30, 2013- ANY THOUGHTS ON MY ENGLISH ESSAY?!


     Often it seems as though a person cannot change who they are, but this is not true, crises force people to become the person they need to be in the given situation, and that the instinct to survive can override any weakness in character.  In Adam Bagdasarian’s novel Forgotten Fire, the main character Vahan Kenderian starts off as a carefree individual who believes he will always be taken care of.  When crisis strikes, everything Vahan knows gets taken away from him, and he is forced to either take charge and grow up, or be killed.  As the story progresses he begins to show honor, integrity and self-reliance.
     In the beginning of the novel Vahan states,  “I walked with the confidence of a boy who has grown up in luxury, and knows that he will always be comfortable, always be well fed, always be warm in the winter and cool in the summer” (4).  His attitude towards life and thoughts about himself are, “My father was afraid that I lacked character and discipline.  And he was right.  As far as I was concerned, character and discipline were consolation prizes given to the meek, the unadventurous, and the unlucky” (5).  This mindset shows that Vahan is not interested in succeeding on his own, he lacks drive and thinks he can always rely on his father to carry him throughout life. 
      As time progresses without even noticing, Vahan begins to start showing the qualities that he lacked before.  After spending time at Goryan’s Inn, Vahan’s mother tells Vahan that, “I [the mother] cannot watch them kill you” and that she wants Vahan and his brother Sisak to leave in the middle of the night (50).  Even though this is a tough thing for Vahan to do, because his mother’s room is the one place he goes to whenever he feels nervous or unsure, he does it anyway without arguing because he knows that is what has to be done.  Leaving the one person he goes to for security shows Vahan is starting to understand what is going on and what needs to be done.  Later, Mrs. Altoonian tells Vahan that no Armenian is safe in Bitlis.  Vahan agrees, “though I [Vahan] had wanted to believe we were safe” (73).  Even though Vahan knows that he is not safe, there is still part of him that would like to believe otherwise, he still does not want to accept that this is reality and that his life really has changed.
     Near the end of the novel Vahan finds a part of himself he did not think was there.  He has come a long way from the boy who thought he could float through life, and always be taken care of.  He has come to terms with the situation he is in and understands what he needs to do to survive and just does it. Vahan finally realizes everything, when he tries to inform Selim Bey about what has been happening with Seranoush. When Vahan tells Selim Bey about the abuse Seranoush has endured, Selim Bey’s response is, “Pick your friends carefully and protect them if you can. Leave the rest to their fate” (138).   These words take away Vahan’s last bit of innocence and show him how cruel the world really can be.  When everything in the stable starts feeling strange, and Mrs. Mahari and her son suddenly disappear, Vahan knows he needs to watch out for himself, because he could be next.  “I [Vahan] had taken the precaution of arming myself with a pitchfork and a hammer. If the door opened and the old man stepped inside, I would either run him through with the pitchfork or crack open his withered pink skull with the hammer” (151) In this situation Vahan stays very alert and takes control, he is prepared to do what is necessary to survive.  This shows a drastic change in Vahan, because before he would just have assumed that everything would be okay, because he was Vahan Kenderian, but know he is much more in tuned to reality, and has a plan of action.
     In this novel, Vahan Kenderian shows he has all the traits his father believed he was lacking.  Even though he starts off as a spoiled boy, with a charmed life who has never had to work for anything, he quickly learns what it is like to work for something, when he is forced to work to keep the most important thing to him…his life.  Even though all the odds are stacked against him, Vahan shows honor integrity and self-reliance and he embarks on the journey to freedom from the Turkish soldiers.  It is a belief that people are unable to change who they are, that they are destined to be a certain way based on the cards they have been given.  Everyone is stereotypically categorized by friends, family and acquaintances, who have gone through life with the belief that people are one-dimensional.   However whether it is due to a severe illness, losing a loved one, or genocide, there is always something that can drive someone to become a different person.

Jan 30, 2013- Life is filled with choices


     Life is filled with choices, and lives are shaped and we are defined by the choices we make when faced with a difficult juncture.  As I sit here is english class and type this I can help but thinking about the things Agustin said to me last night, and at first I thought I knew exactly what I wanted, but I can’t help but wonder if I’m making the right decision.  Sometimes I wish that life didn’t involve so many decisions, that I didn’t have to make choose, I could just have both.  Then I could be with Agustin and Alex.  Maybe this is because I don’t trust in my own judgment, because it has failed me in the past.  Either way that isn’t how life works, and I must decide what I want before someone gets hurt, it isn’t fair to string two people along…Any suggestions? 

Jan 30, 2013- Agustin Adolfo Medina Hardina

     Yes, that is his name...Agustin Adolfo Medina Hardina.... And a year ago I would have done anything to be with him.  When I first met him he was all I could think about, he was the best looking guy I had ever seen, and I had so many changes to get his name or number, but I kept blowing it. But fate wasn't giving up on me, I randomly ran into him 7 times before I finally got his number.  As it turned out he has a girlfriend, but I didn't care.  I was determined.  As time progressed me and him started to go on dates and I was like his best kept secret, but I didn't want to be a secret, I wanted to be his girlfriend. He kept saying he was going to dump Sid (his girlfriend) for me, but when it all came down to it Sid won.  To get back at him I dated his step brother and best friend. Finally I let myself move on and found Alex.  Last night I finally answer Agustin, who has been texting me nonstop for a while.  He told me he liked me a lot and screwed up choosing Sid over me. He then said "I want to be with you... How ever you want it... If we keep it secret if we date or if we're just friends with benefits idc I just want you bad...". I didn't know how to respond, because I couldn't believe something that would have made me the happiest person alive a year ago now meant so little to me... I kind of just left him hanging, because I knew I could never leave Alex for anyone, I loved Alex and no kind words could change that.

Monday, January 28, 2013

Jan 28, 2013- Every action has a consequence...

     I knew giving in and taking the pills she wanted me to would come with a consequence.  After all that was why I had spent the past 6 months finding anyway possible to make sure I never let a single one of those little red pills slip down my throat.  But I couldn't do this much longer, she was catching onto me.
     four weeks ago I finally started taking the pills my mother desperately wanted me to take, because she believed medicine was the cure to everything  and that fighting wasn't normal, differences in opinion weren't okay, and since I didn't agree with everything she wanted, there had to be a medication for that.  And the second she thought I started taking the medicine, all of a sudden in her mind everything got better.  A few days after I started taking the pills I didn't feel right, I was so tired all the time, that it hurt to be awake, I had no motivation at all and I couldn't stop eating.  As the days progressed these symptoms got worse, and my hands started to have a tremor.  I wanted to tell her that the medicine was slowly ruining me, but I knew I couldn't suddenly have symtoms from a medicine I had supposedly been taking for 6 months.  At this point there was only one other option, I had to figure out how to go back to not taking it...but the problem was she watched me everyday while I took my medicine.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Jan 23, 2013- The cards I've been dealt

     Today I realized that my mother is not the person she was, she's always been a little on the crazy side, but as the years went on she got progressively worse.  Until now she is completely gone, the mom I knew is no longer there, all that is left is a heartless broken woman with no passion for anything.  It's been hard to come to the conclusion but I have finally excepted the fact that there is something mentally wrong with my mother, it's like she's bipolar and I wish so badly she would go back to the person she was when there was still some of the real her left.  But it is what it is, and I'm done crying, I'm done feeling sorry for myself, everyone is dealt a certain set of card, and just have to make do with what they've got, so that is what I plan to do.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Jan 22, 2013- An endless day

     Today was something else...My mother went out to work for the day so I decided to surprise her and  clean her room, my room and cleared off and entire shelf and organized all her beading stuff by color, then I took down the old dog crate and brought the huge ass thing all the way down two flights of stairs to my basement.  Thinking my mother would be super happy when she got home, I couldn't wait for her to come home.  When she got home she wasn't amused, she couldn't have cared less. I was kind of surprised and disappointed.   Then she went on to complain about the fact that I didn't want to go with her to the cupcake shop.  Later, after making me and my sister dinner, I was studying and she came downstair to where I was and started ranting about god knows what, she ended up hitting me with a remote, then calling Alex and leaving him a voicemail of us fighting.  I tried to call Alex back afterwards, and he didn't answer, it made me worried that something was wrong.  As I'm typing this I can hear the bitch upstairs, she's on the phone with my boyfriend Alex, god knows what they're talking about, at this point I honestly don't even want to know.

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Jan 20, 2012- My new world

     Yesterday I went to Alvin's art gallery to check it out and meet with him...Walking in I was kind of nervous, because I hate going places by myself.  When I entered I noticed it was unfinished, but still amazing.  He was going to use to space for people to create are but also there was another room where he would throw art parties with singing and dancing and there was a bar.  The upcoming party had a bunch of really professional important people, and it was invitation only, but he said I could come and bring some friends of mine!  He thinks I'm 19, even though I'm 15, so I wanted to make sure I wouldn't need an id to get into the party, so I casually asked if I should bring my id with me, and he was like, "nah you don't need it, I know you're 19."  He then taught me some tips for sketching, and next Saturday he is teaching me how to do graffiti on canvas!!

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Jan 17, 2013- New day, new opportunities(:

     So today I had the idea to talk to this guy I know Alvin Acoma who owns an art gallery...I told him I do art and asked if he had any tips for me...he told me he'd like to help me get even better at art then maybe put some of my art in his gallery!  How awesome would that be?  well that means I have to go practice, after I finish doing the other hundred and fifty things on my list of things to do...ugh...life is so stressful, lately I haven't had even a moment to breathe between mid-term exams, catching up with school work, tutoring, work, and housework, and now this art thing...lol wish me luck, and coffee!

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Jan 15, 2013- Time to myself

My newest sketch
what do you think?

     Today was long, lately I've been lazy when it comes to going to school, because after being out for so long it's hard to get back into the swing of things.  Before I used to miss Alex so much when I didn't see him, but lately things have been getting better...I've been finding more time for myself and I started sketching again.  Its not so hard to be apart from him anymore, because I am much more secure in my relationship...Before anytime anyone left I was always worried I might never see them again, and that made it really hard to be apart from Alex whom I cared about so much...But lately I just know he will be back, so it is okay.

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Jan 10, 2013- The loss of my innocence

     Growing up in a town where every sports game ends in a tie, and every child believes in santa until they are 12, is the parents of my towns way of trying to keep their children as sheltered as possible for as long as possible.  Each and everyone of us are taught from the beginning never to look at anyone differently, and never ever point out anyone else's differences.  Now all this is nice, but the down side to growing up in such a sheltered town is you don't realize that not everyone is this open and excepting.  You start to think that things like racism don't really exist.  Until Alex, I never thought twice about the fact that I wasn't white, because no one had ever treated me any different because I wasn't and no one had every really pointed it out to me, so it wasn't a big issue.  After meeting my boyfriend's father, and realizing he didn't like me, I couldn't believe that someone could have anything against me, especially my boyfriends father, whom I had tried so hard to make like me.  A few weeks into our relationship, after hearing his father talking, I realized he didn't like me because I wasn't white, and that apparently made me socially lower class then his family according to him (which is funny because at the time his father was renting a one bedroom apartment and my family owns a 2 story house).  Regardless the more I was around his dad, the more I tried to change his opinion.  It wasn't until today when the dad and his girlfriend, both told Alex that I was never welcome in their home, ever that I realized that I would never be able to change their opinions about me.  They are both racist and I will never be good enough for them, and no matter what I do that will always be the case.  Today I finally understood that racism is very real, and for the first time I couldn't just turn on my charm and make them like me, and I had to deal with the fact that there were people in this world that would judge me without ever giving me a fair chance, and even those I didn't chose that, it was something I was going to have to face in life.  This conclusion was very hard to come to, because I wanted to think that everyone in the world was good and excepting, I wanted to be oblivious to the truth again because it was a huge blow to my self esteem.  Refusing to see what was really out there was the last piece of my innocence that I was holding onto, but now I have officially lost all my innocence...

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Jan 10, 2012- It's not still new years?

     So yes, even though I thought I had given up on blogging, I decided that I missed my blog too much.  There isn't really much I have to say...in fact nothing about school, because my school vacation never really ended.  We went back to school last wednesday, but I got sick so I didn't get to go back.  Then after going to the hospital, I found out I have a kidney infection, so I haven't gone back to school yet.  This year I am planning for a new start, my first new years resolution is to be friendlier (if that's a word?).  Because I am not always a people person, I can be quiet bitchy, and start problems for no reason other then the fact that I like to argue.  Also I want to paint more, haha I know that sounds random, but I used to paint, and then I just stopped, so I want to start that again...And thats kind of all, other then that I'm really not sure what I want to change....Anyone have any good resolutions for this year?